It’s hard to say no. Our friend, Lysa Terkeurst, reminds us of this in her book, “The Best Yes.”
It’s that time of the year. In many ways fall is a beginning of the year in my mind, much more than January 1. I’m sure that partly stems from being a teacher so many years.
Many good things present themselves. None of us want to hurt people’s feelings.
At church there are opportunities to teach or lead all ages, be in bands, committees, or teams.
In the community there’s coaching, mentoring, snacks for athletic teams, room parents for your child’s classroom-the list could be endless. And how about being a great neighbor who brings over pies or begins a bible study?
In the family, a mom’s heart wants to try again on the traditional dinner together. The “Norman Rockwell” magazine cover hangs in her mind.
Guilt tries to set in and take residence if we don’t set up our calendar just right.
I came close to teaching a Sunday school class for this fall…which would be a wonderful thing…although the timing is not right. I said no. I felt bad, because I really would love to build relationships with those kids. If I said yes, I feel I’d be disobeying God.
In the body of Christ, if everyone is doing their part, everything gets done. I have a different part right now. There has to be a good balance of priorities, obligations, and responsibilities.
I need to do a few things well, and not spread myself too thin and do a mediocre job on many things.
Oh, so many good things to say no to!
In this season of my life, the Holy Spirit is speaking to me very clearly about writing. I’ts one of those things that is not very visible to most people right now, but it’s my mission and the way I can do my part.
Much prayer has gone into my secondary list for this year. It’s a short but time-consuming list of singing in the praise band, being on a prayer team, B.S.F., and Hospice. Two things for my church, one thing for growth, and one thing for the community. That’s just enough and not too much. I feel good about it now, and it’s re-evaluated with prayer often.
With a wide margin of reason, I’m even careful with appointments, lunch dates, extra meetings, and errands. Those things can suction the life out of a day like a vacuum. The strong pull towards a seminary class, and learning an instrument still lurk; keeping my house clean and having a few meals on the table would be a plus.
First and foremost, I desire to be a Christ follower, a wife who’s not like a dripping faucet, and an encouraging, available mother to grown kids.
As difficult as it is, I’ve had to say no to many things in the last couple years and set limits. If I don’t, the busyness of life overtakes me. Days just drift away with no real accomplishments.
What decisions have been tough to make recently? Do you think you’re going with your true callings or are you feeling pulled in many directions? Do you think you have said yes and no to the right things?
I would love to hear if you struggle with this too. How do you handle it?