It’s the instant bond we have from the moment we know we’re pregnant.
Our heart is no longer our own. It is instantly and forever shared. It’s a heart tie that is very strong, a cord no one can sever. We as mothers have “carried” you in our bodies and in our hearts from conception. With earnest and tearful prayers we have made a distinct attachment. It’s like the teeth of zippers holding two parts together, the opposite sides of velcro as they cling together. They say that mothers of adult children should “cut the apron strings.” But do we ever completely do that? Not completely. Stay with me here.
Yes, sons are supposed to “leave and cleave” to their new wives and daughters are meant to be loyal and true to their husbands. That’s healthy and biblical-the beautiful way God designs new families. I will strive with God’s help, to be a loving mother who is not intrusive but available.
The mother of a son or a daughter will always be their mother even if she is called home to heaven first. A mother who is a believer will never pull the zipper apart, or tear the velcro pieces. She isn’t even able. She is forever a part of her child. This world is messed up and sinful and so are we. Therefore some situations prevent the way God wanted it to be. Abusive or messy relationships between mothers and daughters still have a certain tie…sometimes it’s not healthy, but it’s still there. I’m also not looking to discredit or underestimate the power of love and bonding in an adoptive relationship. Those can become just as full as the biological.
I wanted to share with you an interesting biological phenomenon about mothers, cells, children, which I fell upon amidst my studies of mothers and daughters. I find it intriguing.
Think of it…a biological mother’s body gave blood, oxygen and food supply to her child for almost ten months as she carried the child inside her womb. I always thought of it as a one-way street, from the mother to the baby. Science is proving that it goes both ways.
Much of it goes over my head, not being a scientist or in the medical field. Some of you are way ahead of me on this kind of thing. I’ve found a source from the National Center for Biotechnology Information (sounds important doesn’t it?) There’s an article here, if you are technically or medically a genius:
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2633676/ which explains in detail what some of these blogs and stories are basing their information from. I wanted to know if this stuff was true and this journal article supports a theory that’s been around for a very long time. This was another neat article about how the cells from a baby can help to heal a mama’s heart! The heart is special to me for many reasons. https://www.newscientist.com/article/dn21185-fetus-donates-stem-cells-to-heal-mothers-heart
To oversimplify it, the cells of a baby can actually cross the placenta during pregnancy and continue to live inside the mother, helping her too. So, it’s like a legacy in reverse! Thank you my sons! Some of your healthy characteristics could actually be enabling me to combat diseases and some cancers. It’s amazing.
This is a u-tube video by Dr. Alan Greene, that is a heartfelt, simple explanation of this:
I don’t understand all the ins and outs of it, or the bioethics, nor am I an evolutionist. But it is a scientifically proven fact that a mother always carries her child in her heart physically as well as emotionally. Which intuitively, all of us moms have always known.
God is the author of life. He created science and is omniscient. Science and the bible do not have to contradict each other. He intricately knit us together in the womb of our mothers. As it says in Psalm 139, our frame was not hidden from Him, His eyes saw our forming body and He knew every day of our lives. https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Psalm+139
It’s a comfort to me that I am forever connected to my mom in many ways.
This is fascinating. I am going to pass this on to my daughter – who has four of her own daughters and has had 3 miscarriages. She will be encouraged. Thanks, Myrna. 🙂
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Debbie, another part of this whole thing, is that you most likely carry cells from older brothers and sisters too! Cool huh? Glad it will encourage her. Yes I found all this to be fascinating!
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I am the oldest sibling in my family, so that means my younger siblings have some of my cells in them. Very cool! …….. Although they may not think so. lol. Thank you for sharing this. 🙂
And grandmothers carry their grandchildren in their hearts. My grandchildren are a part of me and when my daughter had a miscarriage early in her first pregnancy, I felt the loss deeply and still mourn that loss when thinking about it. My dad said many many times that my mother never got over the death of my brother, her firstborn son. Yes, that bond between mothers and their children is very strong.
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Yes, Dottie I don’t doubt your dad told you that. She did seem very greatly affected. I never had to experience that and I pray I don’t. They say it’s the hardest thing. I’m also sorry about your daughter’s miscarriage. It’s amazing to me how these connections are made. Thanks for visiting and commenting on the blog! It means a lot to me.