Mother’s Day can be complicated…

Everyone knows that Mother’s Day is coming up on Sunday. Unless you forgot! Oh my!

There are mixed emotions for many people on this special day coming up. Some are giddy and excited about having a family dinner and it will look like a scene from a Norman Rockwell magazine on Sunday.

It’s not that easy for most. We are complicated people in a complicated world. There is pain. There might be unrest. There are so many scenarios that can come into play.

We are not all able to take our mothers out to dinner or go to her house to have a joyous family gathering.

If you don’t know me, my mom went to heaven when I was 7 years old. I’m certainly not looking for pity here. But I grew up very differently than even my own siblings, who were all quite a bit older than me. They knew my mom. I didn’t really get that privilege of knowing her very much.

I have so many blessings, including a wonderful mother in law, two sons make me a mother myself, and lots of nieces, nephews, and grand nieces and nephews. So I feel like a mother in many ways and have an older generation to look to. A wonderful legacy that my mom left me, of diaries and her faith.

But think about what the “Mother’s Day Hallmark holiday” might look like to people in these kinds of situations:

A mother who has babies in heaven. A mother who has tried but has a very strained or absent relationship with her child of any age. A daughter who is losing her mom right now, as she is at her bedside vigil. A granddaughter who would love to spend time with her grandmother, but she lives in a state very far away. A SON who knows he should call his mother, but is in a state of unforgiveness and his pride will not let him do so. A daughter who never really knew her mother because she was “discarded” in some way long ago. A daughter who will be grieving on Sunday, because her mom is mentally far away in some other place. An orphan who is crying for the arms of a mother-someone just to hold her.

If you have a grand time with a mom or grandma, or if you are a mom or grandma, APPRECIATE it and savor the moments! But let us not forget the people who may be going through invisible pain on Mother’s Day.

Count your blessings and enjoy ever moment you can with those you love. You don’t know when they might be the last. Those who are in Christ Jesus, and knew their loved ones were, will have hope. Many do not have hope.

Let’s remember them this weekend. I’m sure you can think of many other kinds of things friends may be going through.

Please share a story or an encouragement for someone else today.

About Myrna Folkert

Myrna is an author who desires to use her gifts to glorify God. She's created this blog to tell stories of her childhood, musings about life, motherless daughters, grief and loss, faith in God, her family history, and facts about the Long QT syndrome. She also has a hearing condition called Tinnitus. Doing interviews with motherless daughters like herself are of great interest. Join in discussions by following this blog and commenting. She would love to hear your stories about life. Myrna is a Christ follower, wife, mother, sister, friend, aunt, and cousin. She was an elementary school teacher for 27 years; now works in her church, and a few other volunteer activities such as Hospice doing "Life Reviews" and Vigils. Myrna loves to read, write, listen to music, go to concerts, and take pictures. Her favorite pastime is boating with her husband near the beautiful shores of West Michigan.
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6 Responses to Mother’s Day can be complicated…

  1. Lois Blanchard says:

    Thank you Myrna. This is beautifully said. Thank you for sharing. I remember Martha. She was so special, and loving to us all. Love to you, Aunt Lois


    • myrnafolkert says:

      Thank you Aunt Lois. She writes of visits from you and Uncle Fred, and trips out west to you. I even got to go out there with the family just a few months before her death, when I was seven. It brings tears to my eyes to hear about her. She thought so much of you.


  2. Beth Foreman says:

    Thank you for the reminder to be aware of those enduring invisible pain, today and all year. I’m blessed with imperfect but still beautiful relationships with my own mother, mother-in-law, daughter, son, and daughter-in-law. It’s easy to take for granted how richly these fill my life. It’s also easy to forget that so many others have lost those relationships or never had them. Your post nudges me to open my eyes and my heart.


  3. Kelly says:

    Appreciate this message.


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